Supplementing the Game

I love TV!! Love commercials, love laughing at them, and highly enjoy those put together by cleaver marketing geniuses! Mio Energy drinks have struck cranium gold with their new campaign…not because I actually drink the water polluted stuff but their observations on changing the game are beyond accurate.

Relatively so to the “network” and supplements that are available to the proverbial “gazelle”.  By my definition the gazelle is the quiet skinny like character that is traditionally slow to express her sexuality. She is shy, reserve, and worse yet, timid when it comes to the network and her ability to enjoy herself.  She is prey for a Cheetah such as me and in most cases she’ll freeze in the headlights of promiscuous opportunity.

Gazelle in a tutu...so cute.
Source: Trinity Life Blog

While energy drinks will keep the gazelle up for a little longer, our friend liquid courage may get her to loosen up a bit and at least tap into her social sexuality enough to engage in conversation and enjoy a lady on lady dance. Rrraarrrrh. Some say that liquid courage is not a game changer since everyone drinks it…at best it levels the playing field and is accepted among the watering hole but others choose to avoid it at all cost in order to not miss a moment. YES some women find it harder to orgasm once they’ve had even one drink. In short, it numbs the senses and emotional feelings that scream at us to not proceed in a naughty actions.

But there are supplements that DO change the game. Some involve the consumption of psychoactive remedies that produce distinctive emotional and social effects which can turn any gazelle into a BEAST! They literally go from a panic freeze to bra and panties spinning in the air like a helicopter!
Not that I mind one bit!
Sexual aggression encourages them to actually show me where they are wet or how hard their nipples are…not that I mind that either. LOL.

Gazelle Supplements

Heightened sensations and a lack of anxiety allow them to lean in and kiss me, grab me, and explore me. Still not minding. LOL.

But one can’t help but wonder if there is a sense of exploitation here. We both know you’d never be this aggressive without your inhibitor and while the decision to indulge is yours, I’m not always sure I feel confident in your new role as Tiger. Having said that, how is that any different from liquid courage? If the choice is yours, perhaps some additional influence is necessary to let some inhibitions go? I’m not judging.

Another case in point is that little blue pill that “helps” the restful one-eyed serpent wake when normally way too much alcohol can put him down for the night. I don’t care who you are or how great your head giving skills are…that baby ain’t getting up no matter what, once the mind’s cynicism and alcohol has soaked it to a point of no return. Funny fact is most women are nonchalant to this; guys have a bigger issue with it then we do but understandably so. If my vagina had an open and close latch and I couldn’t open it, I’d be done too. 

Gazelle Candy

Now introduce the little blue pill and a disoriented soaked penis and you have a numb hard-on all night long. I’ll be the first to say, “That’s not right” cause life rule number 1 is to NEVER waste a hard-on and as tough as a vagina is, it can only take a beating for so long. BUT if a man knows his limits, is he changing the game by 1) embarking in selflessness that allows him to participate and give more or is it 2) flat out cheating just like the freaky gazelle?!    

What the mind may want the body cannot always follow, hence the arguable need for supplementation. Perhaps supplementation provides a secondary level of excitement and joy, hence addictions. The list of enhancements found at your local nutrition depot or herbal store are endless. From natural to illegal options that provide some sort of assistance whether we agree with it or not, it is what it is, assistance.

The real question is do we care?

Eager Beaver

Ever have one of those nights where your girl is looking good and feeling good!?  Not just good but sexy and fine and lick your finger and touch your own booty, HOT!  Tonight it’s going doooooown!

 

Her confidence is up and you walk into the club like you're both looking like a million bucks and nothing can touch you.

Que your theme song and disco lights flashing on just you two.

Yup, that's you in the club...

Hot to death!
The night goes great, she's dancing, she's being social, and she feels the love. You both have great chemistry and find another couple that you both are really into.
This is it!
Excitement, rush, the thrill, and butterflies are there and you find yourself letting loose.
THIS is the time where the magic happens.

Friendly flirting is exchanged and you just know everything is going down and then...just as sure as you walked in, your woman's actions and mood come to a scratching halt?

What the hell happened?

No.
No. No. No. No.
And then Whyyyyyy? Whhhhhyyyyyy?!?!

Take note men, this is a classic example of eager beaver. Insert a witty picture of buck teeth on your face here.  

Print and cut out above image. Add string
to side holes and attach to your head.

What's eager beaver? An eager beaver is when guys show WAY too much interest in everyone else, usually another woman, over your own woman. Chances are you didn't even mean to do it but sometimes it's just one word, one comment, one touch too many that sobers up the night and stops just about any dancing queen. I call it a pee-pee meter killer. LOL.

Why is this? You think the night is going good, why must I continue to walk on egg shells and mitigate my actions for her? "Her" is your wife and “you” is an idiot for asking BUT I hate to see men get shut down, so I’m going to shed some light on the subject.

First off, women find affection HOT. SO, rests assure that you not paying enough attention to the other woman will not be misread. Truth is, the more you love your wife and show her affection and attention and take heed to her needs, the greater your changes of her staying in the mood and the other woman finding you even more attractive. This is old school mac rule number 3. Hello.

Second point, and I know this one personally, don’t be so pushy? A pushy man is a turn off. Reread that sentence! I said it once, and I’ll say it again…the network is all about the ladies. If you find yourself getting anxious or annoyed that things are taking too long, then take a break. Last thing you want to do is rush your partner and even more so piss her off so she hates the network and never wants to go again! DUH. (That’s my new favorite word).

Third point and then I’m done so I can go find cleaver beaver like pictures, but alcohol tends to get the best of us. Liquid courage gets to pumping through our blood and before we know it, you’ve got your hands up a skirt in a crotch that does not belong to you! Men! Don’t fall for the open crotch, don’t fall for the easy invitation unless your lady is there and takes your hand and places it there.  Don’t even think that she’s busy dancing and she won’t see you if you touch it real quick…mock my words, she will or she will hear or most likely you will forget and she’ll come back and the music in the club will stop.

Most important, don’t miss the point here. It’s not about the crotch or you not being able to do what you want. Please don’t be that naive, it’s about the trust!

Eager beaver means you’ve broken some barrier of trust between you and your partner and if she says it or not, she just wasn’t ready for what happened. THAT’s what matters. Don’t go on bickering with her about what was not your fault because the crotch just fell in your hand. Who cares! Do you want to bicker all night or have a great time!?  

Instead, recognize it for what it was; a moment where the beaver’s bridge to sexual euphoria broke because he didn’t set a good foundation of communication and trust.  That small moment of crotch rubbing wasn’t even worth the world that lies behind the curtain of trust so know that I’m not steering you wrong.

Before I get too corny with the analogy I want to share advice to get past the eager beaver reprimandation in the event you have found yourself a beaver in a dog house. In short, shut-up and listen.  That's it...easy! Take into account your feelings when your trust is abused and then act accordingly. There is no right or wrong no matter how open the crotch was, just another night to try again.

You SHOULD give a fuck about those you wanna fuck

I don’t really give a flying fuck what most people think…or I used to behave like that. In some aspects I still do where relative. Maturity has proven to me that it is a condescending attitude to have.   Speaking from experience, the lifestyle (or the network as I’m coining it) does NOT operate well on condescension.  Let’s not confuse that with confidence by any means. Confidence goes well in the network but being an ass, does not. 

People do actually weigh quite a bit of perception on your opinions, thoughts, and actions, and for those of you who don’t know, actions do speak louder than words. Don't believe me, ask your peers of their opinions of various celebrities who have yet to change the negative perception that follows their names. See how long it is before Mel Gibson is in another movie. His PR people ARE still working overtime.

Chronologically, social media has performed a phenomenal job in bringing out the truth in people and in more cases then I’d like to admit to. Couples that we thought were top notch turn out to be racists in the most simple of status and photo posts while others are politically ignorant (by my definition anyway) and some display no form of patriotic respect what so ever in their lack of support for their senate, president, military, or country. Anger gets the best of them and it’s not sexy…not sexy at all. Emotions do not mix in the network.

So, why do we care what others think? For starters, we are genetically built to seek approval and it starts at a young age from our parents, then school, and continues for a lifetime at our job.

The network reason is even simpler.

We are held to a higher standard.
We are judged (like it or not) by all and others on who we are and what we do. Rational is simple, it IS an exclusive, private, society of people with secrets (I need to insert a big fat DUH here), and standards! Aaaand let’s face it…you’ve seen us naked either in person or in pictures too. LOL.

We confess.

We hold our spectacular network friends at a higher level than most others (others by definition is vanillas, non-network).  We confess to deleting friends from social media and couple sites that are just down right crazy because we just don’t want to be associated to those kinds of people. And while some say, “fuck that, if we’re friends, then we ARE friends” (silly children say this also, BTW, as adults we know there are many levels of friendships, duh), the old saying rings even more true in that, “birds of a feather flock together”.  My association with you is tied to your attitude, be it racist, ignorant, or just flat out crazy and the longer I defend it, the longer I stay around, festering in your pool of "I don't give a fuck" cancer, the more association I tie myself into. No thank you...no thank YOU.

The people who hang with you...they give a fuck. Surprise!

My association with someone who is absolutely insane, a bigot, an animal abuser, a sexist, a homophobic, and yes even a swinger is carried over and people now assume I am all these things. Some things I'll tolerate but others, like being an idiot, I won't.

We're not talking about people that I don't like, I could care less about those or their opinions of me, but for those that we do like and that we do hold dear to our heart as true friends, we do not want having those assumptions tied to us or passed to them. Hence, the giving a fuck means having respect, feelings, and consideration for those around us.

I know. I know…I’m the first to say that the ONLY person I’m worried about is my better half. This is true, at the end of the day, that’s all that matters. But in the meantime and between times, we like to enjoy the company of those who have similar beliefs and likings that we do. We like to protect and foster those friendships and if that means severing those who diminish our well earned and worked hard for perception, so be it.

I share this because if you find yourself being one who never gives a fuck, you may quickly find yourself alone and in case you hadn't noticed, as a swinger, it DOES actually help to have others around that you wanna fuck.

I HIGHLY enjoyed typing fuck repeatedly in this blog. Thank you for the outlet!

Benching A Couple

Just like in the marvelous world of sports, there are times in the LS where you just need to bench a couple. 

Bench a couple? Huh? You trippen. 
Always. 

There I go with my foolish analogies but this one should be easy and fun.  Just about any jock can conceive the concept of sometimes benching your best player for the great good of the team. 

What happened?
They LOVED us? 

Not necessarily for the win, let's not be silly and compromise that, but as it pertains to couples, for the greater good of greater sex (oh, yeah, and friendships too...that's important also. LOL)!

Game time and you've found yourself the lesser of the desired. 

We've been there. 

Not a pretty place. 

What happened? 

They used to love us? 

Dang...did we just get benched?

Yes...rejection is painful like throwing an interception at the end of the 4th quarter, last play of the game, against the Raiders. LOL.  It hurts and it stings so bad. 

So what changed us from being the number one player on the team, to literally gaining splinters on our bottom from riding the bench so hard?  

The Playbook:

Insecurity: 

Probably one of the best reasons to bench a couple. Truth be told, some of the most confident people in the world are found in the LS (or as the Mr. has been calling it to talk in code, the "Network", LOL) but there are times when couples have "moments". NOW, I'll be the first one to tell you that ANY insecurity in your partner, in MOST cases, is your fault. If we're not doing what we can to easy our significant other, then we're not doing right by them in general and chances of you playing will be slim to none. Other couples are in tune to this. Don't be fooled and think they don't know when something is up or ya'll are off for the night. 

Inconsistent Messages: 

Flag on the play!
Source: 90 days 90 ways blogspot.com

This is a classic. The girl is texting me saying, "we need to get ourselves right first" and he's texting my husband saying, "She's down for whatever, dawg!". First off, you should know that we talk to each other. Second off, you should know that we laugh at you. LOL. You want me to keep it real or sugar coat this? Third off, you get a FLAG and Bench. 


Until they are on the same sheet of music, the only playing that will be going on is on your own. In reality, this is a HUGE disservice to us and to yourselves. Not only do we not want to participate in a guy pushing a girl into something she does not want to do, but we don't want to be there when everything blows up either. 

Crossing the Foul, I mean Friend Line: 

There are moments when people talk to much and tell too much detail. In truth, your tolerance for your husbands mishaps may be acceptable to you, but over time, they quickly turn other women off. As in, what a jerk, that's not cool, or I don't know why she puts up with him. Same vise versa. Maybe those are not your intentions when talking, but you should be aware, negative association can take several meanings, even if you just wanted to vent...DONT! This is that "friend" moment where you know a little bit too much and instead of having these great sexual experiences, you end up with "friend" like nights and fall into this funk of friendship being the priority. Don't misunderstand me...being friends and having a connection is great...but we all have a lot of vanilla friends and girlfriends that we can tell everything to. That or just choose one "network" friend that is close enough to handle it and knows not to pass judgement. Reserve the new people for the fun conversation. 

Back in the GAME! 

Getting back is a choice. As a couple, all you have to do is decide and hope the other couple still has a glimmer of interest and attraction to you. In most cases they will or do, unless you've been benched for a serious technicality. Getting back in can be virtually taxing and frustrating since another player (ie couple) is already ready to take your place! Keep in mind, you now have an unspoken stigma to break! 

Make choices that better you as a unit and then its time to put in work! 

In my Big Rob voice, DO WORK!

But be warned, getting in while you are new is EEEEEAAAAAAAAASY. 

STAYING in is hard enough!

Making a come back...lets just say, tis better to avoid the bench in the first place. 

The Fake Orgasm - Somebody had to tell you

A conundrum: What screams with excitement but actually has none?

That's a good neck arch. NOT faking! ;)

The fake orgasm. 

I'm not sure where this little guy game to fruition or why but he's been the culprit for many men thinking they have far better skills than they actually do in the boudoir!  

What's started this anomaly is beyond me, but I can admit, I've been there. I've been that girl (emphasis on girl) who was in a selfish relationship that paid no mind nor attention to my satisfaction. The challenge is breaking the cycle, or in my case the relationship. Ha!

When in a group of wine indulged women who are confessing their most intimate details, you'll find that most say they do it to get the situation over with. SMH. Sad that they refer to sex as a situation and even more sad that they are not communicating their needs with their significant other. 

So, I figured maybe some men WANT to do better but they are just not aware they are being faked upon? Ha! Maybe not. The clear objective is to nut, but for my own sanity and self indulgence, I'm going to assume that this is true and some men do WANT to do better. So, I share:

I'm gonna issue a "FAKE" card for this one

How to tell if your woman is faking? 

For starters, most orgasm are NOT what you see on Playboy Channel or in Porn. All the screaming, yelling and howling going on is far from accurate. I'd say some of my best orgasms were quiet bursts of pleasure that almost had me choking on my own spit. Deep gasps for air, while the body contracts and spasms does not allow for unnecessary screaming and belting. So, if your woman is doing this. Stop what you are doing and really take a good listen to the genuine sounds. If you have stopped and she's still yelling, THAT might be a good indication she's faking! LMAO! 

So NOT faking.

Second is to be aware of physical sensations that do not make sounds. To feel is far better then to hear! Is she wet? See blog: Wet means excited....Is there vaginal clasping? More important, what are her arms, hands and legs doing? I've been known to wrap my limbs around a head (above shoulders) and pull in at times. Sorry but it's no different then guys assisting women when they are giving head by gently pressing on the back of your head and thrusting at the same time. Really. I don't need any help. LOL. Arms tend to pull or push the body in, depending on what she likes or needs at that particular moment in time. 

Now, having shared all of this, I'm NOT trying to say that yelling is not applicable with an orgasm. It has it's time and drunken place. LOL. Translation: we all yell when we feel like it or need to or when that mess is deep and you can feel your stomach move up a half inch. The trick here is to exercise experience and know when it's genuine yelling or just "hurry the fuck up" yelling. 

Some women will say there is a time and place for the fake orgasm. In moments where your guy IS really trying and it's just not working for you? I supposed. I supposed faking is a form of giving when not taken to the extreme but we're not talking about those moments...

Are you finished? 

Sooooo, let's say you are pumping your hips and "when I dip, you dip, we dip" and all of a sudden you become aware of the situation that your woman is faking. 

What would YOU rather have her do? 

I hope that most men (or women with lovers) would honestly ask for a moment of truth? RED is going to race across the face of your deprived lover because faking and NOT getting caught is skills (sorry, that's truth). Faking and getting called out, well....that's quite embarrassing. 

Awareness is key! 

That is all.

Swap Status – It’s The MOST We’ll Do BUT Not ALL We Do

Man…these past few months, we've really come to realize that we’re becoming some veterans in the game?

Compliments of Nabisco Foods, Inc.

How did THAT happen? LOL. Time flies when you are having fun.

We met so many new, cool, sexy people, all with amazing and highly stimulating pics on-line…several with some serious X-rated pics that would lead one to assume, this couple is wild or as we say “off the chain”. But then once the drinks hit and everybody starts getting touchy feely, we realize…they’re all swing virgins. LOL. Is that an oxymoron or what? 

We had one couple that we’ve been interested in for a while. They hung with another couple often so we assumed they were “fcuk buddies” but then there is the one night where they venture out alone and opportunity arises. Everybody is dancing, having fun, taking pics, drinking and laughing and intuitive me can tell something was on “his” mind, so I open the can of worms and ask what’s up and he says,

So your guys’es profile (don’t knock the grammar, we were all drunk, LOL) it says your Hard Ball?

And there is this look on his face like he’s not ready but please don’t leave us! Please don’t leave. LOL. 

I say Awwwwwwww! Don’t let that discourage you!

Curse the stupid profile status!

Yes, we have been know to be listed as “Hard Ball” or “Full” and what that means to us is, we’re ok with a full swap situation, with selective couples. That does not mean we ALWAYS Full and it most definitely does not mean we do so with everybody.

What we do like to stress is that status is more of a way to say, that’s the MOST we will do. As if there was more…well, really…there is, but that’s another blog. Insert a look of relief on his face and a smile to know we’re not going to rape them. 

Over loud noise and people walking by grabbing my butt, I explain: Look, we’re non-aggressive types that come with no pressure but lots of pleasure…nice tag line. At the end of the night, all I want is to ride my husband like a broke dancer who has to pay her pimp the next day.

If that’s ALL that happens, we’re cool.

If nothing happens, we’ll probably fall asleep at some point, but that’s cool too. Are we interested in more, when the time is right?  Sure.

Is it a requirement? No.

Source: Fraiser-Field Girls

Now having said that, we know some other very nice and sexy as hell couples who say they are Hard and Soft is just a tease. Our heads nod…but at the same time, if expectations are set before hand, we totally understand and sometimes we enjoy the tease.

It’s not like we’re not going to talk to you if you won’t full swap with us.

It’s not like we’re going to avoid you and point our finger at you and laugh and yell, “ha ha, you’re a soft swapper”. LOL. Sorry, visions from high school just returned. LOL

At the end of the day, it’s about having fun with hot couples that we like and are attracted to because it turns us on to each other. It’s about what’s comfortable for everybody and making sure limits are set that everybody agrees on. Those limits change for us, regardless if we’ve been with a couple before and regardless of swap status.

So how does one get there? How can you communicate to us that you are down, but you are not ready to full swap?

Well for one, we’ve changed our status on-line. Not to be deceiving or dishonest but more so to not be stereotyped and/or be pre-judged.

The second and most effective way is to just ask.

If you don’t…we’re gonna ask you once we get to that quiet place anyway.

Last thing we want to do is offend or cross any boundaries and/or have our boundaries crossed. So at some point in the night, rest assured, we’ll ask and find out what your rules are and the BEST part is, we’ll respect them.

Officially “Soft” but baby it don’t stay that way for long. LOL.

MulattoMuse

Separate BUT Together

We've noticed a new and quickly spreading trend within the LS.  Couples appear to be breaking off into separate rooms and in some cases engaging in totally separate nights of fun and debauchery! *Silly girl gasp* Situations that call for a combination of factors but in short, I had to blog about it!  

Let me classify:

1) Separate rooms - same house but you are in a separate room from your partner. In most cases, one can still hear what's going on in the other room. There's no denying the sound of body slapping and moaning but for the most part engagement is limited with your significant other and you're in a one-on-one situation with your swapper.  

Conclusion: I can definitely see the benefit of such a situation since it allows you to focus on one and not a room full. Too often one person is way too "worried" about how much fun their significant other is having instead of focusing on their own pleasure. I can understand concern but this is more of a distraction and lack of focus is evident when it comes to sex.  Separate rooms allows people this focus and sometimes allows them to do things they wouldn't normally do while their partner is watching. You gasp and ask, "Like WHAT kinda things and if they're not doing them in front of their partner, then maybe they SHOULDN'T be doing them at all!" But it's THAT kind of mind frame that prevents them from letting go and releasing their inhibitions. Perhaps a little freedom opens up more doors then you realize. 

Testing: Having given this a try, I say it's worth the while IF for no other reason then the pure joy of hearing people in the room next to you go at it. LOL. Kinda like college when you shared a dorm room and you'd peak at your roommates covers bouncing around and get wet when you hear her giggle or the sound of lips smacking. Don't act like you didn't look! Lies! The point is, if there is an inquiry, then you may want to explore this option. Nobody said you can't give it a try and go back. 

Sexy! Does she answer?

2) Separate relations - some couples are perfectly fine with their spouse going and having a good planned time without them. This takes a boat load confidence but generally this includes a date night, some wine and dine and then a trip back to a designated house, followed by a sleep over or even later night returns home. 

Conclusion: Remember your first date together? We do. We talk about it all the time. The butterflies. The showing off of your new found trophy and the natural high that comes from playing a little cat and mouse. There's some excitement to be had at dinner when you're learning about someone new and having a conversation that does not involve the kids, work, or bills. 

Contemplations: Date night is fabulous with Mr. Spectacular, although, he's become accustomed to me leaving the house without my panties on. Doing so on separate relations night is enough to drive a man insane. I love to hear, "You're wearing THAT?" NOT to mention the additional joy of driving your rendezvous crazy, since this is a new found zone for him. In the process of it all, the wine is great, the conversation is wonderful but at some point you may actually miss your significant other. Good! Absence does make the heart grow fonder! There will be a moment where you will realize that someone else is turning him on. I wonder if that whore has panties on? Never! That's why I love her (LOL)...and then there will be a moment where said rendezvous works even harder to keep your attention. Let him, enjoy your time knowing that returning will be that much better. 

3) Separate separate - now here is a doozy if I say so myself. I, the confident of the confident, am not sure I can muster this one up but we're now talking about having a separate girlfriend or boyfriend, perhaps on the side. Not your traditional boy-toy or girl-toy, that you both interact with. Those are a blast and they go home when everybody sobers up BUT an actual consistent boyfriend or girlfriend. 

Conclusion: I could see some benefit in having a sole contributor and committed player in the game but at what point does one person take priority over another? Never would have to be the correct answer. From a selfish stand point I could totally see us as a couple benefiting from such a situation but even in the scenario of sister wives, there's one head bitch, now girlfriend feels inferior. Emotions come to play and in most cases, anyone eager enough to be in a relationship WILL eventually want more of one, no? I guess I find it unfair to the outsider looking in. How can they find what I have if they're spending their Saturday nights with an illusion of my happiness?

Experimenting: With the idea, because we're far from trying it, but the knowledge of such a hook-up sure is hot. This is assuming somebody in your present relationship is not out, while you are? So, let's say HE stays home with the kids? You're out and he's running to kid practices, cooking dinner and you come prancing in after the kids are asleep with a smile on your face. Of course he wants details and to see pictures! Assuming you share and have no issues with telling the intimdate details, I'm almost 100% confident he's going to want to remind you who's pussy that is...now reverse it! Women are emotional creatures and I can see a level of resent building up, especially after a normal day of running. Does he want to fuck again when he gets home? Maybe, if he initiates it...or should I? I'm still unclear here on what the motive is, aside from clearing ones curiosity to try something new. Since we're in the lifestyle to do things together, I guess option 3 would defeat that purpose, BUT I'm open to suggestoins and feedback on this one.

au revoir,Le Muse

Single vs. Married Couples

Soooooo, we have had the pleasure of meeting some REALLY cool people in the lifestyle. Mostly we hang with normal freaks, like us…LOL and we’ve found ourselves gravitating to married couples, with kids, who are in love and secure of their relationship. Recently we met a couple that we have a lot (that’s 2 words people!) in common with, but they are not married. So we said, Ok, that’s cool, maybe they are dating, trying to get things together or maybe they just have one of those relationships like Oprah and Steady (that’s what I call him) where they are just better functioning without the legal and tax obligations? I hate that rich bitch (Oprah). LOL. 
But NO! 
They were not! 
Not even dating, not living together, hell, they don’t even see each other but on the weekends…if that!

I felt a little bit betrayed. A little mislead.

In my opinion and opinions are like ass holes…everybody has one…married couples have a lot more to lose than people who are single. One fight at the club and single people are out to get one another and anxious for revenge while pulling everybody down with them. Married people fight too and hack it out, but we don’t run. We have a vested interest in the relationship and a legal commitment. Sounds so technical, but true. But the couple is really cool, very nice and we’re all great friends and technically, the milk has spilled, sooooooo, do we remain friends, because WE actually do know how to be friends with couples…or do we keep them on our fuck buddies list?

I reiterate, it’s truly a privilege to be in the lifestyle. Single people can hook up with anyone they want, when they want. Hence the term SINGLE…but being married means you have to be fair, find connections, sometimes compromise (or at least drink a little more. LOL, that’s a whole different blog) and be respectful to somebody besides yourself. I guess we are ok if a couple is dating with the intentions to be married because I can understand waiting to get married until the time is right or finances are right or till his mother-in-law gives it a rest, but friends posing as partners just doesn’t reside with us.

Thoughts or are we just being snobs?